Hot Wedding Trend – Signature Cocktail

One of the hottest new trends right now in the wedding scene is creating your own ‘Signature Wedding Cocktail’ for guests to enjoy! You can consider having one drink that represents you as a couple or having one for the bride and one for the groom. Either way, these super-fun (and super-delicious) signature drinks are guaranteed to be a hit on your big day! You can even consider serving them with a custom cocktail napkin!

Here are some of our top Signature Wedding Cocktail suggestions!

1.) “Berry Happy Together” Sangria

1 bottle Sauvignon Blanc or dry white wine
3/4 cup St. Germain
2 fresh peaches
5-6 fresh strawberries
6 fresh raspberries
1 small bunch of fresh white grapes

Stir ingredients in a pitcher or carafe. Allow fruit to soak in mixture for 15 minutes– or longer if desired. Serve in an ice-filled glass. Garnish with micro marigolds.

2.) “White Wedding” Cosmo

2 parts vodka
1 part St. Germain
3/4 part white cranberry juice
1/2 part lime juice

Shake all ingredients with ice. Strain into chilled martini glass. Choose a dainty orchid to use as a garnish.

3.) “The Blushing Bride” Cocktail

2 oz passion-fruit nectar
3 oz Champagne
1/2 teaspoon grenadine
Handful of huckleberries

Pour chilled passion-fruit nectar in a flute. Carefully add chilled Champagne and grenadine; don’t stir, but allow to blend. Top with huckleberry garnish.

4.) “Honey, I do” Honeydew Martini

3 ounces vodka
1/2 ounce Midori
1/2 ounce triple sec

Fill a cocktail shaker halfway with crushed ice. Pour all your ingredients in with it. Shake it up well and strain the mixture into a chilled martini glass. Garnish with a slice of lemon or lime.

5.) “Something Blue” Blue Curacao Cocktail

30ml vodka
15ml blue curacao

Fill a highball glass with ice, add the vodka and blue curacao and top up with lemonade, stir and serve.

6.) “Sweet On You” Strawberry Vodka Lemonade

2 cups sliced fresh sliced strawberries
1 cup granulated sugar
7 cups water, divided
1-1/4 cups lemon juice (about the juice from 6 lemons)
Pinnacle Strawberry Shortcake Vodka

In a saucepan over medium-high heat, bring strawberries, sugar and 1 cup of water to a boil. Reduce heat to low and cover. Simmer for 10 minutes. Place strawberry mixture in a blender or food processor and puree; set aside and allow to cool. In a pitcher, mix lemon juice, 6 cups of water and strawberry syrup. This is your Strawberry Lemonade. In a glass over ice, mix 1 part Pinnacle Strawberry Shortcake Vodka with 3 parts Strawberry Lemonade.

7.) “Just (Rose) Married” Tequila Cocktail

1-2 sprigs fresh rosemary
4 blackberries
3 tablespoons (1 1/2 ounces) tequila
2 tablespoons (1 ounce) lime juice
4 teaspoons (about 3/4 ounce) Simple Syrup
Ice cubes

In a cocktail shaker combine 2 sprigs rosemary, tequila, lime juice, and Simple Syrup. Add ice cubes; cover and shake until very cold. Strain liquid into an ice-filled glass. If desired, garnish with additional rosemary sprig and blackberries.


Did you have a Signature Wedding Cocktail at your wedding reception? What was your drink of choice?

Our Favorite First Dance Songs

Your first dance as bride and groom is so important! It sets the tone for your marriage and all eyes are on your as your twirl around the dance floor. That’s why it’s also important to pick a great song that represents you as a couple. To help you make this important decision, here is a list of our top 25 favorite first dance songs!

1. “Amazed,” Lonestar

Lyrics You’ll Love: “I don’t know how you do what you do/I’m so in love with you/It just keeps getting better”

2. “As,” Stevie Wonder

Lyrics You’ll Love: “As around the sun the earth knows she’s revolving/And the rosebuds know to bloom in early May/Just as hate knows love’s the cure/You can rest your mind assure/That I’ll be loving you always”

3. “As Time Goes By,” Dooley Wilson (from Casablanca)

Lyrics you’ll love: “And when two lovers woo/They still say, ‘I love you.’/On that you can rely/No matter what the future brings/As time goes by.”

4. “A Thousand Years,” Christina Perri (from Twilight: Breaking Dawn)

Lyrics you’ll love: “Darling, don’t be afraid/I have loved you/For a thousand years/I’ll love you for a thousand more”

5. “At Last,” Etta James

Lyrics you’ll love: “And here we are in heaven/for you are mine/at last””Better Together,” Jack Johnson

6. “Better Together,” Jack Johnson

Lyrics you’ll love: “It’s not always easy and/Sometimes life can be deceiving/I’ll tell you one thing, it’s always better when we’re together””By Your Side,” Sade

7. “By Your Side,” Sade

Lyrics you’ll love: “When you’re on the outside baby and you can’t get in/I will show you you’re so much better than you know””Can’t Help Falling In Love,” Elvis Presley

8. “Can’t Help Falling In Love,” Elvis Presley

Lyrics you’ll love: “Like a river flows surely to the sea/Darling so it goes/some things are meant to be”

9. “Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You,” Frankie Valli or Lauryn Hill

Lyrics you’ll love: “I love you baby and if it it’s quite all right/I need you baby to warm the lonely nights/I love you baby, trust in me when I say”

10. “Come Rain or Come Shine,” Ray Charles

Lyrics you’ll love: “I’m gonna love you, like nobody’s loved you/Come rain or come shine””Crazy Love,” Van Morrison

11. “Crazy Love,” Van Morrison

Lyrics you’ll love: “I can hear her heart beat for a thousand miles/And the heavens open every time she smiles””Everything,” Michael Bublé

12. “Everything,” Michael Bublé

Lyrics you’ll love: “And in this crazy life, and through these crazy times/It’s you, it’s you, you make me sing/You’re every line, you’re every word, you’re everything”

13. “First Day of My Life,” Bright Eyes

Lyrics you’ll love: “Yours is the first face that I saw/I think I was blind before I met you/Now I don’t know where I am/ I don’t know where I’ve been/But I know where I want to go””Fly Me to the Moon,” Frank Sinatra

14. “Fly Me to the Moon,” Frank Sinatra

Lyrics you’ll love: “Fill my heart with song/Let me sing forever more/You are all I long for/All I worship and adore””Grow Old With Me,” Mary Chapin Carpenter

15. “Grow Old With Me,” Mary Chapin Carpenter

Lyrics you’ll love: “Grow old along with me/Whatever fate decrees/We will see it through””Here and Now,” Luther Vandross

16. “Here and Now,” Luther Vandross

Lyrics you’ll love: “When I look in your eyes, there I’ll see/All that a love should really be/And I need you more and more each day”

17. “How Sweet It Is (to Be Loved by You),” James Taylor

Lyrics you’ll love: “With sweet love and devotion, deeply touching my emotion/I want to stop and thank you baby”

18. “If I Ain’t Got You,” Alicia Keys featuring Usher

Lyrics you’ll love: “Some people want diamond rings/Some just want everything/But everything means nothing/If I ain’t got you”

19. “In My Life,” The Beatles

Lyrics you’ll love: “Though I know I’ll never lose affection/for people and things that went before/I know I’ll often stop and think about them/In my life I love you more”

20. “I Only Have Eyes for You,” The Flamingos

Lyrics you’ll love: “Are the stars out tonight?/I don’t know if it’s cloudy or bright/I only have eyes for you, dear”

21. “It Had to Be You,” Dooley Wilson (from Casablanca)

Lyrics you’ll love: “And it had to be you, it just had to be you/It had to be you”

22. “I Will,” The Beatles

Lyrics you’ll love: “Love you forever and forever/Love you with all my heart/Love you whenever we’re together/Love you when we’re apart”

23. “I Won’t Give Up,” Jason Mraz

Lyrics you’ll love: “I won’t give up on us/Even if the skies get rough/I’m giving you all my love/I’m still looking up”

24. “Just the Way You Are,” Billy Joel

Lyrics you’ll love: “I said I love you and that’s forever/And this I promise from my heart/I couldn’t love you any better/I love you just the way you are”

25. “La Vie en Rose,” Edith Piaf (French), Louis Armstrong (English)

Lyrics you’ll love: “And when you speak angels sing from above/Everyday words seem/To turn into love songs”


We want to hear from you! What was your first dance song? What other songs would you add to this list?

DoubleTree by Hilton Campbell – Pruneyard Plaza

There are SO many details that go into planning your wedding and we understand that only the very best will do! From finding the perfect wedding gown to the cake to the guest accommodations, we want to make sure that you have access to the best in the area! That’s why we would like to recommend an amazing hotel that can accommodate both your overnight guests and your wedding ceremony and reception needs!

Trudy’s is so happy to introduce you to an outstanding hotel for all of your wedding and guest accommodation needs – The DoubleTree by Hilton!

The DoubleTree by Hilton is conveniently located inside the Pruneyard Shopping Center right next to our shop! (how awesome is that?!) What’s so great about their location is that there is so much for your guests to do right within walking distance. They can go explore the shops, there’s entertainment and also great places to eat! If there is something your guests want to do that isn’t quite within walking distance, no worries – The DoubleTree by Hilton offers a courtesy shuttle that ventures within a 5-mile radius.

If you are interested in having your entire wedding at The DoubleTree by Hilton from ceremony to reception to your overnight stay, then this is the place to book! They have a beautiful Garden Terrace and provide tables, linens, a white aisle runner and white wooden chairs. The backdrop is absolutely stunning with a white wooden garden lattice which can even be customized for your ceremony! They also have private banquet rooms and the brand new PY Kitchen + Wine Garden, which offer beautiful backdrops for a cocktail hour.

Trudy’s brides love booking their wedding and guest services with DoubleTree by Hilton for so many reasons, but here is a quick checklist of all of the wonderful things they offer:

  • Windows and natural light in event space
  • Onsite catering with vegan and gluten-free options
  • Steps away from several restaurants, bars and stores (saving time and money for transportation)
  • Free parking
  • Complimentary area shuttle based on availability (saving money on shuttle)
  • Free custom web page or booking link at HiltonLink
  • Hilton HHonors bonus points for wedding couple

If you’re still on the fence about if The DoubleTree by Hilton is the right choice for your wedding, take a look at what others have to say about their stay!

Christina helped us with our wedding ceremony… she was very nice and helpful. She and the staff the day of were wonderful!! Could not have been kinder and more accommodating. Especially, the bartender named Sara.

– Katherine Marzullo

The venue was clean, well-appointed and perfectly laid out. The staff was well organized, attentive and extremely helpful. The food was excellent and all of our members and guests had an excellent time and raved about the food! We had some last minute needs and request all of which they handled without issue and treated as if they were no issues. I could not have asked for a better experience and we will be using them again in the future.

– An Eventective user from San Jose

Kudos to Chef Cameron and his team. Food was amazing so many great compliments. Servers and set up crew were great. Susan was amazing, anticipated our needs.

– Mahal Gutierrez

We were very happy with the hotel. It was the friendliest place ever.”

– Robin Morgenthaler

Thank you to Christina and Susan for all the help, planning, setting up and putting on our Prom. Everyone who worked it was so nice, helpful and bent over backward to help us make it a successful event. The staff that was there through the event and did take down were great with our students and worked hard throughout the whole night. I thought the tables looked amazing and the room looked beautiful.”

– Erin Palmer

The room, tables and buffet arrangements were perfect. It was attractive room and the natural light from the windows added to the over all uplifting feeling of the environment. Christina responded quickly, was friendly and provided excellent options that fit our needs and budget.”

– Karen Moreno

Whether you are looking for a beautiful venue for your wedding or simply a place for your guests to stay, The DoubleTree by Hilton is THE very best in the area! Contact them today at (408) 558-4284 or visit their website here.

Wedding Guest List Etiquette

Weddings are so fun to attend, but planning one can be exhausting, especially when you are trying to create your guest list. Here are some of the most common guest-related etiquette questions, and how to handle them!

We’re having a small wedding, and several people have directly asked me if they’re invited – but they’re not. How do I respond to them?
If you’re having a smaller wedding, be prepared to field these types of questions. You can simply say “It was really difficult for us and we really wanted to invite everyone, but due to budget constraints, we had to keep our guest list to just close family and friends.” Usually, once you mention that it was a budgetary issue, people will understand.

Do I have to invite kids to my wedding?
Short answer – NO. You don’t have to invite children to your wedding, but if you choose to go this route, don’t make any exceptions or risk offending people. Another option would be to only invite the children in the wedding party (meaning, children you are extremely close with), but no others.

My maid of honor is throwing me a bridal shower. Do all of the people I invite to the bridal shower have to be invited to the wedding?
The answer is yes. Anyone who is invited to any “auxiliary events” – engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. should also be invited to your wedding. There are two exceptions – if you’re having an extremely small destination wedding (like, under 50 guests) and all of the bridal shower guests are aware and understanding of this, and office showers where your co-workers are aware that they’re not invited to the wedding.

I have a lot of single friends. Do I have to invite them all with dates?
Ah, the plus-one debate! You should invite guests who are in long-term, committed relationships with their significant others. But for friends who are casually dating or single, you don’t have to invite them with plus-ones – again, as long as you’re consistent. Of course, those who are living together, engaged, or married should be invited as couples – even if you have yet to meet the significant other.

Do I have to invite my co-workers?
You should only invite your co-workers if you have a relationship with them outside of the office (meaning, you socialize on weekends, etc.). If you decide against inviting your co-workers, keep the wedding talk to a minimum while in the workplace.

I sent out my wedding invitations and guests are adding names of those who weren’t invited to their RSVP cards! How do I handle this? 
Very directly. Either call them yourself or, depending on the side of the family the guest is on, have your fiancé(e), parents, or in-laws call them. Let them know that you noticed that they added additional people to their response cards, but unfortunately, due to budget and venue capacity constraints, you will be unable to accommodate them. They should be understanding, but if they put up a fuss, simply say that you really can’t make any exceptions and that you hope they will still be able to celebrate with you. In very few cases, a guest may choose not to attend your wedding in protest – unfortunately, you’ll have to accept it and focus on the close family members and friends who will be with you on your wedding day.


Did we get this list right? What other guest etiquette tips could we add to this list? We want to hear from you!

Tuxedo Wearhouse

We understand that a bride’s dress is a HUGE part of a wedding, but that doesn’t mean that the groom’s attire should go without thought! If you are looking for an awesome tuxedo for and your groomsmen, then Tuxedo Wearhouse is THE place to go!

Trudy’s is so happy to introduce you to an amazing tuxedo rental service for your wedding day – Tuxedo Wearhouse!

Tuxedo Wearhouse was founded more than 40 years ago. The first San Francisco Bay Area location opened at the Great Mall, Milpitas in 1995. They are a locally owned company and have very strong ties to the community. Unsure where to start when it comes to purchasing your tux? Don’t worry! Tuxedo Wearhouse has experts in men’s formal clothing and suits, and they follow all of the latest trends to make sure you are in style. They work with you directly to coordinate styles, match colors, and even offer help and advice for your wedding! One of the biggest advantages of renting from them is that they carry all their styles in the back of their warehouse, which allows them to provide same-day service and peace of mind when picking up your tuxedo.

They not only help you look good, but they can save you money too! They are always offering huge promotions to help alleviate some of the cost from your big day. For example, right now they are offering $50 off tuxedo rentals and a FREE groom tuxedo rental with 5 paid groomsmen tuxedo rentals!

Voted “Best place to rent a Tuxedo,” by readers of the San Jose Mercury News, Tuxedo Wearhouse provides the highest quality tuxedos and customer service. Here’s why you can trust them:

  • They have been tuxedo rental specialists for more than 40 years
  • They have a nationwide presence, making it even easier for your groomsmen to rent their tux, too
  • They offer unique colors and on-trend styles
  • They have great customer service, quality and selection
  • They offer onsite alterations and same-day tuxedo rental service
  • They carry all their tuxedos in store for you to try on. You don’t rent from a catalog.

Still not sure if Tuxedo Wearhouse is the right fit for your wedding tuxedo needs? Here are just a few of the awesome reviews that they have received:

Me and my groomsman came in earlier today for a fitting. John was there to greet us and help us out. He made the whole process painless and it was a pleasure to work with him. John is professional and knowledgeable. He works with a purpose while allowing you to have fun. I chose the style and color with his help and we were out in a little over an hour. Thank you for all your help.

Serg P., Santa Clara, CA

The best customer service I’ve ever experienced! Came in for a tux shirt for my husband, and John got the guy all spiffed up for our friend’s Hollywood Glamour 40th b-day party. The only problem was that John raised the bar high for me, who had to go dress shopping, but his recommendation on where to find my dress was spot on (thanks John)! We both looked great and had a great time!

Cris S., Campbell, CA

Our overall tux rental experience was excellent and went very smoothly. Everyone working there was gracious and hospitable, and I would recommend this place to those looking to rent a suit/tux. My son is very happy with his choice and so am I, thanks Tuxedo Wearhouse!!

J.S., Sunnyvale, CA

Remember, it’s your big day too. As much as a wedding is about the bride, it’s also about you and you should look great. If you are getting married and need help with your tuxedo rental, give Tuxedo Wearhouse a call! They would love to help you look your absolute best on your wedding day!

Book Your Appointment Now!

5 Things No One Tells You About Your Wedding Day

There is SO much planning that goes into your big day. From booking vendors to seating arrangements to even color schemes, you have a vision and a plan as to how your wedding day will go. But, there are a few things that people may not warn you about that day…

1.) No matter how much time you give yourself to get ready, it’s NEVER enough. Whether you schedule your hair and makeup to last 2 hours or 6 hours, it never seems to be long enough. The last few minutes before the ceremony begins tends to be complete chaos – it’s just inevitable. Emotions are running super high and people will be running around everywhere to make sure everything is perfect.

2.) The moments leading up to you walking down the aisle, you might get really nervous…and that’s OK! These nerves don’t mean you are second guessing your choice to get married or even that you don’t want to go through with it. It’s because you are about to make a huge, life-altering decision in front of your closest family and friends. That’s a big thing. Of course, you might get nervous! The good news is that the nerves quickly go away once you lock eyes with your soon-to-be spouse. It’s definitely a feeling you can’t quite prepare for, but be sure to embrace every second of it!

3.) You won’t remember everything perfectly. Seriously, your wedding day might end up being one big blur. There is so much that happens in a single day that it’s hard to remember everything exactly right. The day will pass entirely too quick, that’s just a fact.

4.) There will be people who attend your wedding that you may not even get to speak with. We all know that it’s common wedding etiquette to thank each of your guests for coming, but sometimes, you can quite catch everyone. People are up walking around and you can’t possibly keep track of every single person in attendance. Try to keep conversations brief when you go around to make sure you have time to connect with everyone and still have time to enjoy the evening and dance!

5.) Your wedding dress will get dirty, and that’s fine. You have spent hundred or even thousands of dollars on this dress and of course, you want to keep it nice, but try not to worry about it too much. It’s a white dress so yeah, it’s going to get dirty. But that is what dry cleaning is for! Plus, it’s only meant to be worn once!


What other things did you not know on your wedding day? What can we add to this list?

The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden

Finding a wedding venue that is both beautiful AND flexible enough to meet all of your needs is perhaps the most stressful part of planning a wedding. You might love the view at one site, but not the $140-a-plate mandatory caterer. The food at another venue is spectacular, but not so much the box-like reception hall with its dated purple carpet and red velvet table linens. So often, you are faced with a long list of all-or-nothing packages. There are beautiful spaces, but never enough space and freedom to have the wedding you’re truly dreaming about.

Your wedding is yours and yours alone, and you deserve a venue that will allow you to get outside of the box and into the open air of the beautiful Almaden Hills, a venue with all of the luxury of a winery and the perfect intimacy of a wedding at home.

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Trudys is so happy to introduce you to one of our favorite new venues in the Bay Area – The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden!

The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden is, quite simply, the best of all worlds. The beautifully-manicured gardens and vineyards create the perfect wine-country ambiance, centered around a stunning Mediterranean villa that will serve as your home-away-from-home. The lovely on-site bride’s room means that you and your party won’t have to worry about transportation wrinkles – you can walk your freshly-pressed dress right outside and down the aisle. An expansive lawn and tiled patio offer you the ability to let your imagination run wild and create your own vision for your wedding day. The Enchanting Gardens is also a private venue – no unwanted gym goers, golf pros or hotel guests will be wandering into your reception, leaving you free to relax and enjoy quality time with your friends and family.

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It’s beautiful, it’s comfortable, it’s all yours – and we haven’t even gotten to the best part yet. Want to choose your own food? Feel free to bring your own licensed and insured caterer! Have a certain wine you fancy? Bring in your own drinks, with NO corkage fee!

The Enchanting Gardens is child-friendly, thrilled to celebrate with our LGBTQ couples, and your hosts are even thoughtful enough to provide a sitting room for elderly guests to escape to and rest on cool summer nights.

The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden is not a cookie-cutter wedding venue, as they only book one (1) event per weekend and a total of ten (10) events per season (June to October), so you can be sure that your wedding will not overlap with anyone else’s, allowing all the attention to be on making your day extra special! It’s an exclusive, private venue that can accommodate up to 300 guests (with the addition of executive restrooms).

Included with the site is the Wedding Day Management Package of Certified Wedding Consultant, Marcia Coleman-Joyner, whose professionalism, warmth and 28 years of experience will be the final pieces that make your day truly STRESS-FREE! We can vouch for Marcia’s talent ourselves – she is also the Event Coordinator for Trudys Brides!

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We’re simply in love with The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden. Finding the perfect venue is exhausting, unless the perfect venue just happens to be right in the neighborhood. We can’t wait for you to discover The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden.

Don’t take just our word for it, here are some of the AMAZING reviews that The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden has received on Yelp:

We just had the most amazing wedding at the Enchanting Gardens of Almaden (EGA) this past June. It was the perfect venue for our summer wedding. The gardens and vineyards are stunning! We had about 150 guests, but it can easily accommodate more. The venue is large enough to accommodate everyone, but still felt very intimate. The venue comes with a wonderful wedding coordinator, Marcia. She is very experienced and will make sure your wedding runs smoothly. Her execution and delivery from the months leading up to, and especially the day of, were flawless. She was the best wedding coordinator we could have ever asked for.”

– Patricia L.

There isn’t one thing that I would change about my wedding at the Enchanting Gardens of Almaden (EGA).  It was a happy, stress-free day that exceeded my expectations.  My guests were amazed by the beautiful setting and had a great time. The wedding coordinator, Marcia, was great to work with.  She has so much experience and knowledge about weddings; we knew right away we were in good hands.  You don’t realize how much goes into a wedding until you have one.  We met with her several times leading up to the wedding to make sure we were on track.  By the day of the wedding everything was organized and Marcia made sure our wedding went according to plan.”

– Melissa L.

“We had our wedding at the Enchanting Gardens of Almaden (EGA). We could not have found a better venue for our needs. EGA was a win-win for us since they weren’t as strict with the choice of vendors as many other similar quality venues, and their rates are better than most. Marcia, our wedding coordinator, who is included in the price, was wonderful. She comes with decades of experience! She kept us (and our guests) on schedule. She is a professional – very reliable – she knows what she’s doing. If you’re looking for someone who can provide you structure and also work with your needs, Marcia is it!”

– D. G.

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Finding the perfect venue is exhausting, unless the perfect venue just happens to be right in the neighborhood. We invite you to discover The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden!

Can you imagine your wedding on these beautiful grounds, dancing under the twinkling stars?

The Enchanting Gardens of Almaden still has dates available in the Summer and Fall of 2017, but won’t for long!

Groom Wedding Day Checklist

As your wedding day arrives, you will be feeling A TON of different emotions. With so much going on around you, it can be easy to overlook the small, last minute details. Before you make your way to the alter, here are a few things to check off the list!

Read Through Your Vows One Last Time

If you decided to write your own vows, you hopefully know what you are going to say at this point. But sometimes when you’re in the spotlight and the pressure is on, your mind can go blank. Be sure to run through those vows one last time to make sure you know what you’re going to say!

Grab A Small Snack

By this point, you have probably had a meal or two, but having a small snack right before you walk down the aisle isn’t a bad thing to make sure you keep your sugar levels up. But guys, this does not mean greasy pizza or chicken wings. The last thing you want is your stomach to be uncomfortable while you standing in front of everyone about to say your vows.

Use The Restroom

Just like mom says “Even if you don’t think you have to go, you should still try!” It’s no different on your wedding day. Just do it just in case. You will thank us later.

Do a Mirror Check

Take one final look in the mirror before you walk down the aisle. Sometimes it’s windy and your hair could have gotten a little messed up or maybe the snack you just had left a little reminisce on your face. Just do a quick check to make sure you are good to go.

Secure The Rings

Even if you’re not the one carrying the rings, confirm with whoever does have them that they are there and ready to go. This could go very bad if you don’t check and double check!

Turn Off Your Phone

Honestly, do you even NEED your phone during the ceremony? If not, give it to a friend of family member or just leave it in the car. If you do decide that it’s a must, be sure to put it on silent.

Take a Deep Breath and GET MARRIED!

Lastly, take a big deep breath and walk down that aisle to your soon-to-be wife!


Men, did we get this list right? What else did you do on your wedding day right before the ceremony started?

Four Traditional Wedding Speeches

Traditionally, wedding toasts are given in the following order:

  1. The Best Man
    You might think that being Best Man is all about planning a raucous bachelor party and not much else, but the Best Man does have one major responsibility to prepare for: the toast. The Best Man should introduce himself and explain how he knows the couple. For example, he can tell the story of how he and the groom have been buddies since high school and how they met the bride-to-be during spring break their junior year of college. He can then say something positive about the couple and their relationship, show gratitude for being part of their day and wish them happiness.
  2. Maid of Honor
    While the Maid of Honor can follow the same outline as the Best Man’s speech, it’s more common to focus on the bride. Drawing from past experiences together, the Maid of Honor can tell a heartwarming or funny story from their friendship or from wedding planning escapades. For example, maybe the veil didn’t arrive until the day before the wedding or putting together the favors was a complete nightmare, but the bride managed to keep her cool through it all.
  3. Parents of Either Spouse
    If one or both sets of parents are hosting the wedding, they may choose to say a few words to welcome everyone to the event. This toast will be fairly fast, especially if the parents made a lengthy or heartwarming toast at the rehearsal dinner. They will welcome and thank the guests, then toast the other set of parents and the couple before raising their glasses.
  4. The Couple(Optional)
    Sometimes the couple will opt to make a toast, particularly if they are hosting the wedding. The main purpose of the speech by the couple is to thank everyone involved: the bridal party, family, and guests. Couples may also express their excitement about starting their new married life together.

Wedding Toast Length and Content
Keep it brief. One to two minutes is ideal, and three minutes is the max. Even if there’s a lot to say, talking for three minutes can feel like a long time! Just one message needs to be conveyed: one story, one wish for the couple, one heartwarming song lyric. The best speeches don’t necessarily have perfected, eloquent wording; instead, they evoke an emotion. Simple, short toasts can still be filled with charm.

When it comes to what to say, your intention should be to make both spouses and all guests smile…at the same time. Inside stories may amuse the couple, but they can easily get lost in the crowd. Don’t bring up old flames or problems the couple has faced. Not sure if that story from freshman year is appropriate? Leave it out – children, parents, and grandparents are listening! Avoid insult humor, too. Remember, this is a toast, not a roast!

Alternative and Extra Speech-Makers 
Every couple has their own preferences and relationships, and nobody should ever feel forced to give a toast. If the Best Man or Maid of Honor isn’t comfortable speaking in front of a crowd (or if there isn’t a Best Man or Maid of Honor at all), either skip it or hand the baton to somebody who will love getting up in front of a sea of eager faces. If a lot of people want to make a toast, consider arranging traditional toasts during the wedding and plan the rest for the rehearsal dinner.

Rehearsal Dinner Toasts
At the rehearsal dinner, the groom’s father (or whoever is hosting the dinner) usually makes a speech, along with anyone else who wants to toast but won’t be getting up at the wedding. Since fewer people will be in attendance, these speeches can be longer and more involved than wedding day speeches. Say hello and introduce yourself, then welcome everyone and say how excited you are for the wedding. Tell a sweet, hilarious, or intriguing story that’s related to the couple or the wedding. For example, give your first impression of meeting the bride or groom; talk about how the couple met or got engaged; or share a childhood memory, like how the bride used to try on her mother’s wedding gown when she was a teenager. End with something sentimental and heartfelt about the couple or a quote about marriage, then wish the couple well.

We want to hear from you! Who else gave a speech at your wedding? Did we get the order right?

Wedding Toast Quotes

Are you hitting a wall writing your wedding toast? We’ve got you covered! Here is a list of wedding toast quotes that you can use:

Cultural Proverbs

“Where there is love, there is no sin.”
—Montenegrin proverb

“When the husband drinks to the wife, all would be well; when the wife drinks to the husband, all is.”
—English proverb

“Marriage has teeth, and him bit very hot.”
—Jamaican proverb

“Love is like a baby; it needs to be treated gently.”
—Congolese proverb

“Deep love is stronger than life.”
—Jewish proverb

“Try to reason about love and you will lose your reason.”
—French proverb

“Love and eggs are best when they are fresh.”
—Russian proverb

“The heart that loves is always young.”
—Greek proverb

Cultural Blessings

“May the road rise up to meet you,
May the wind be always at your back,
The sun shine warm upon your face,
The rain fall soft upon your fields,
And until we meet again
May God hold you in the hollow of His hand.”
—Irish blessing

“Ten thousand things bright
Ten thousand miles, no dust
Water and sky one color
Houses shining along your road.”
—Chinese blessing

“May you grow old on one pillow.”
—Armenian blessing

“May their joys be as bright as the morning, and their sorrows but shadows that fade in the sunlight of love.”
—Armenian blessing

“Happy the bride and bridegroom and thrice happy are they whose love grows stronger day by day and whose union remains undissolved until the last day.”
—African-American blessing

“May your love be like the misty rain, gentle coming in but flooding the river.”
—African blessing

“May your love be as endless as your wedding rings.”
—Traditional blessing

“May their joys be as deep as the ocean
And their misfortunes as light as the foam.”
—Armenian blessing

“Let’s drink to love, which is nothing—unless it’s divided by two.”
—Irish blessing

“May your joys be as sweet as spring flowers that grow.
As bright as a fire when winter winds blow,
As countless as leaves that float down in the fall,
As serene as the love that keeps watch over us all.”
—Old English blessing

Traditional Toasts

“Ka mau ki aha. (May you never thirst again.)”
—Traditional Hawaiian wedding toast

“A toast to love and laughter, and happily ever after.”
—Traditional toast

“Ad multos annos—to many years!”
—Latin toast

“Here’s to the bride and the groom!
May you have a happy honeymoon,
May you lead a happy life,
May you have a bunch of money soon,
And live without all strife.”
—Traditional toast

“Here’s to the groom with the bride so fair,
And here’s to the bride with groom so rare!”
—Traditional toast

“Here’s to the husband
And here’s to the wife;
May they remain
Lovers for life.”
—Traditional toast

“Let us toast the health of the bride;
Let us toast the health of the groom;
Let us toast the person that tied;
Let us toast every guest in the room.”
—Traditional toast

Traditional Graces

“Bless, O Lord, this food to our use, and us to Thy service, and make us ever needful of the needs of others, in Jesus’ name. Amen.”
—Traditional Protestant grace

“Bless us, O Lord, and these Thy gifts which we have received out of Thy bounty, through Christ our Lord. Amen.”
—Traditional Catholic grace

“For what we are about to receive, the Lord make us truly thankful, for Christ’s sake. Amen.
What we are about to receive, may the Trinity and the Unity bless. Amen.”
—Grace before meal

“Barukh atah Adonai Elohaynu melekh ha-olam ha-motzi lechem min ha-aretz.
Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Source of the Universe, who brings forth bread from the earth. Amen.”
—Traditional Jewish blessing over challah bread (Ha-Motzi)

Famous Quotes

“Insomuch as love grows you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul.”
—St. Augustine

Be present at your table, Lord.
Be here and everywhere adored.
Those mercies bless, and grant that we
May feast in paradise with Thee.”
—John Cennick

“All love should be simply stepping-stones to the love of God…Blessed be His name for His great goodness and mercy.”

Biblical Blessing

“The Lord bless you and keep you!
The Lord let His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you!
The Lord look upon you kindly and give you peace!”
—Numbers 6:24-26

Shakespearean Toasts and Blessings

“A flock of blessings light upon thy back.”
—Romeo and Juliet, Act III

“Fair thought and happy hours attend you.”
—The Merchant of Venice, Act III

“Look down you gods,
And on this couple drop a blessed crown.”
—The Tempest, Act V

“I wish you all the joy you can wish.”
—The Merchant of Venice, Act III

“The best of happiness, honor, and fortunes keeps with you.”
—Timon of Athens, Act I

“God, the best maker of all marriages,
Combine your hearts in one.”
—King Henry V, Act V

“Love comforteth like sunshine after rain.”
—from “Venus and Adonis”

“Honor, riches, marriage blessing,
Love continuance, and increasing,
Hourly joys be still upon you!
Juno sings her blessings on you.”
—The Tempest, Act IV

Have you recently given a wedding toast and used on of these? What have we missed?